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On being Second

After the American TV personality Ed McMahon died in 2009, one
newspaper headline read, “When it came to being the No. 2 man, he was
No. 1.” Best known for his 30-year tenure as Johnny Carson’s
late-night sidekick, McMahon excelled at helping Carson succeed in the
spotlight. While most entertainers strive for top billing, McMahon was
content with a supporting role. — Our Daily Bread

How do you fair when placed in a supporting role position? Do you
feel not as important? Or, do you take your position with enthusiasm
and contentment, to do all in your power, to be supportive? Putting
others ahead of ourselves can be a very hard thing to do but it is the
right and honorable thing to do. If you have to fight and struggle to
be on top, is it really worth it? I am not talking about not doing
your best, we should always strive to be the best we can be, but if we
place in the bronze or below we should be happy for the silver and
gold, rejoice for them and with them.

If the King of the earth, God’s son, can humbly die on the cross for
all the sins of the world, then the least I can do is put my fellow
man ahead of me.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.
Rick Warren

A hero is somebody who is selfless, who is generous in spirit, who
just tries to give back as much as possible and help people. A hero to
me is someone who saves people and who really deeply cares.
Debi Mazar

It’s hard to get people to overcome the thought that they have to take
care of themselves first. It’s hard to get players to give in to the
group and become selfless as opposed to selfish.
Isaiah Thomas



There is always a choice,
Red pill or blue pill,
Left or right, right or wrong.

Is it the right choice?
Perhaps you thought it was the only choice,
Or maybe you will never know.

Sometimes we get a compass,
A litmus test result,
Or a locked door.

The doors, the choices,
They will never cease.
But, would you want them to?

Chose wisely,
Live by faith,
Leave the rest to God.

“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
Randy Pausch

“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
Viktor Frankl


No Mistakes

A king who did not believe in the goodness of God, had a slave who, in
all circumstances, said: My king, do not be discouraged, because
everything God does is perfect, no mistakes!

One day they went hunting and along the way a wild animal attacked the
king. His slave managed to kill the animal, but could not prevent his
majesty losing a finger.

Furious and without showing his gratitude for being saved, the nobleman
said “Is God good? If He was good, I would not have been attacked and
lost my finger.”

The slave replied only “My king, despite all these things, I can only
tell you that God is good, and he knows the “why” of all these things.

What God does is perfect. He is never wrong!”

Outraged by the response, the king ordered the arrest of his slave.

Later, he left for another hunt and was captured by savages who made
human sacrifices.

In the altar, ready to sacrifice the noble, a savage had found that the
victim had not one of his fingers, and the king was released. According to them: it
was not so complete to be offered to the gods.

Upon his return to the palace, he authorized the release of his slave
that he received very affectionately.

– My dear, God was really good for me! I was almost killed by the wild
men, but for lack of a single finger, I was let go! But I have a
question: If God is so good, why did he allow me to put you in jail?

– My King, if I had gone with you in this hunt, I ‘would have been
sacrificed for you, because I have no missing finger.

Therefore, remember: everything God does is perfect. IT is never wrong

Often we complain about life and things that happen to us apparently negative,
forgetting that nothing is random and that everything has a purpose.

Every morning, offer your day to God.

Ask God to inspire your thoughts, guide your actions, to ease your
feelings. And do not be afraid. God is never wrong!

You know why this message is for you? I do not know, but God knows,
because he never makes mistakes…….

The path of God and his word is perfect, without impurities. IT is the
way of all those who trust in him, as he says in 2 Samuel 22: 31

Zen is Addictive!

That’s Right! I am talking about Zendictive!
Master Art Zen has an awesome blog site that I love to follow!
His posts are stocked full of inspiring thoughts, poems, stories, tales, fables, quotes and tons of information.

If you wanna get your “thoughts on” for the day, then you should definitely subscribe to receive his awesome posts!

Here is one of my favorite posts from Zen:  “Reflections of our Actions”  

Thank you Zen, for touching our lives each day! (bows humbly to Zen)

The Mailbox

As part of an inspired writing exercise I wrote what this picture said to me.
Then I converted my thoughts to a poem. The last time I wrote a poem was in 1985 for an english class.
This is the first time I have written one just for me.

Rusted, worn edges
Splintered dry wood
Gun shot sides
Long have I stood

Faithfully serving
to shelter and protect
Your mail I carry
My heart you neglect

I will not deny
I will not forsake
I am your mailbox
Though I ache

Summer has passed
Winter awaits
Your heart goes on
While mine Breaks

“Loyalty and devotion lead to bravery. Bravery leads to the spirit of self-sacrifice. The spirit of self-sacrifice creates trust in the power of love.”

Morihei Ueshiba

(Mailbox picture is from

Poet’s Rally week 55

“La la la, Whatever”

I heard a song today that said, “La la la, whatever” as part of the repeating lyrics. I’ve already had to repeat that to myself several times today. It’s actually a much needed motto to have when things are frankly, out of your control. We shouldn’t let petty things annoy us so easily.

I’m not advocating that we live life in a no-caring state of mind, but when we let trivial things ruin our day and cause us anger, then we are only hurting our own selves. Fretting is never going to solve anything, but it can make it a ton worse. I’m sure you probably know that from experience, just as much as I.

So try it out today, someone cuts you off in traffic, blow the horn, flash your lights, tailgate them, and scream!? Nope, say “la la la, whatever”!
You get the idea!

Go have a beautiful relaxing day!

“Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.”
Benjamin Franklin

Got Your “Awe” On?

What “Awes” you?

The sun setting over the ocean? The sounds, smells and sensations when you walk into “Best Buy”? Someone actually listening to what you are saying? Getting an “A” on a test? Winning a new car?
Maybe all of the above or none of them? Think about what makes YOU go, “Awe”.

Are you making any “Awes” in your life?

Have you had such a productive day at work that as you were driving home you just felt the “Awe” about yourself? Maybe the little league team you coach just won the area tournament and you were filled with “Awe”?

I am going to “Awe” myself if by November 7th I can say I have posted a blog every day for a month! I want to “Awe” myself by losing five pounds before Christmas. I also want to “Awe” myself by writing a poem!

My challenge to you today is to start making some “Awes” in your life!
You are capable of being Awesome!

So go! Get your “Awe” on, right after you read this short exerpt by Anthony De Mello!

A man found an eagle’s egg and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The eaglet hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them. All his life the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he would thrash his wings and fly a few feet into the air.

Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among the powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat on his strong golden wings. The old eagle looked up in awe. “Who’s that?” he asked. “That’s the eagle, the king of the birds,” said his neighbour. “He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth – we’re chickens.” So the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that’s what he thought he was.

Hold or Fold?

I never could play fish, or any other card game well, that required the so called “poker face”. I am way too expressive to hide my feelings for winning or losing hands.

Some people are good at expressing their feelings while others would prefer you not to know. If you have the tendency to “tell all” like I do, then you probably have faced some of my same challenges.
Do you hold your ground and speak your mind, or do you fold-up those thoughts and neatly pack them away for another time, if any. I don’t think there is ever a clear cut answer for that question. It’s usually a situational decision, but here are 2 questions to ask yourself before you decide which is the right action for you:

1. Will I or the other party benefit from this feeling being verbalized? Sometime words can cause way more harm than good, just for our own moment of wanting to express something.

2. Am I caught up in the moment? Sometimes, if you take just a few minutes to really think about what you are getting ready to express, you might come up with a much clearer, or better way to describe that thought.

“A word is not a crystal, transparent and unchanged, it is the skin of a living thought and may vary greatly in color and content according to the circumstances and the time in which it is used.”
Holmes, Oliver Wendell

You Won!

In all of your efforts to diligently seek out a successful life, do you reward yourself when you accomplish a goal?

Do you end up at the completion of a goal by saying that the goal is reward enough?

A big part of success is to take the time to reward yourself when you make an accomplishment.

You followed your healthy diet plan all week, so go out and have a nice meal of something you have been craving.

You did your workouts faithfully and gave it your best, so take Saturday off, and relax.

Whatever your goals are and whatever you are doing to make those happen, make sure to reward yourself!

“The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses – behind the lines, in the gym, and out there on the road, long before I dance under those lights.”
Muhammad Ali

Appearance and Reality

After cleaning up my most “Fun-tastic” piece of technology, I’m referring to my Macbook Pro of course, I went outside on the deck to compose my thoughts in the beautiful, warm, sunshine of the afternoon.
But to my astonishment my laptop was filthy! Apparently I was blinded by the interior household lighting and failed to see the smudges I had left behind on the screen, and the minute dust particles in the crevices.
What a shock when I came to the reality of the glaring sunlight, as if my laptop was trying to show me the parts of it I had not cleaned properly.

I consider myself a somewhat deep thinker, but if I compare my thoughts to those metaphysical principles of Aristotle, I come up quite mentally dust-ridden.

What realities are you forming in your head as you look at appearances?  Be careful not to let the appearance distort the reality.

“Men in general judge more from appearances than from reality. All men have eyes, but few have the gift of penetration.” ~Niccolo Machiavelli

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