Hold or Fold?

I never could play fish, or any other card game well, that required the so called “poker face”. I am way too expressive to hide my feelings for winning or losing hands.

Some people are good at expressing their feelings while others would prefer you not to know. If you have the tendency to “tell all” like I do, then you probably have faced some of my same challenges.
Do you hold your ground and speak your mind, or do you fold-up those thoughts and neatly pack them away for another time, if any. I don’t think there is ever a clear cut answer for that question. It’s usually a situational decision, but here are 2 questions to ask yourself before you decide which is the right action for you:

1. Will I or the other party benefit from this feeling being verbalized? Sometime words can cause way more harm than good, just for our own moment of wanting to express something.

2. Am I caught up in the moment? Sometimes, if you take just a few minutes to really think about what you are getting ready to express, you might come up with a much clearer, or better way to describe that thought.

“A word is not a crystal, transparent and unchanged, it is the skin of a living thought and may vary greatly in color and content according to the circumstances and the time in which it is used.”
Holmes, Oliver Wendell

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About catlas

Just a girl who loves technology and her Apple products and who uses those cute little ā€œiā€ pad, pod, books to read, search, socialize, game, and type out her random thoughts.

Posted on October 26, 2011, in Blogroll and tagged , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. Allow me to make my point here, Catlas, I share your attitude, “the tendency to tell all.” I reckon that is how I face life every day. Indeed, some find me expressive. But that is my way, I have to make my stand on issues that are important and that affects me. Nice post. “Have a great day ahead of you,” Catlas.

  2. THIS IS SOOOO TRUE——-THANKS FOR A GOOD POST—–

    ( I KNOW PEOPLE WHO ARE ON BOTH SIDES OF THE SITUATION—ME BEING ONE OF THEM—-)
    AS FOR CARD GAMES—I DO NOT LIKE TO PLAY ANY CARD OR BOARD GAMES—
    A WASTE OF TIME–PLUS–WHY TAKE A CHANCE ON LOSING—WHEN YOU CAN NOT PLAY AND BE A WINNER—HA!!!)

  3. I love your family, and momma is so cool.
    You are so right on gurl, you go..
    I tell it like it is, but I do hold their feelings and quickly assess the situation.
    I try not to close any doors, especially in college, and the business world, but I am known for my opinions, ever since I was a wee lass in Orange County, Calif., but even then I was told to be seen and not heard.
    What is up with that?
    Love your post, and love your mom, and the fam. kerbe, on the sacred mountain of 14,000 ft. Ya know we have to think or die of lack of oxygen, lol.
    Blessings to all, and keep up the gr8 thoughts, it has made my day..

  4. Like the little stream
    Making its way
    Through the mossy crevices
    I, too, quietly
    Turn clear and transparent

    I have been told I am intrusive,(this comes from where I work where this trait is needed) head strong and speak my mind, I am not good at hiding my feelings or emotions, the world is filled with all kinds, but to true to one’s self to me is the most honorable. How can you trust someone who can say one thing, think another and yet do yet another (~_~)th again trust is earned, not handed out. Inspirational post or more politically correct, thought provoking.

    I do however like the idea…go fish (grin)

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